Who’s Your Daddy? – The Sex Appeal Of Older Men
While mulling over what to talk about in my last blog, my husband had a suggestion I found irresistible! More joking than serious, he said, “Why don’t you talk about the sex appeal of older men, and call it ‘Who’s Your Daddy’?”
He never thought I would take him seriously. Well, as you can see, I did. By older, I am specifically talking about men past fifty. Yes, I have an eye for young stud puppets, cut and lean sex machines! But many of those to die for men look that way to attract other men. Although nice to ogle, it’s rather like pressing your nose against the candy store window. Drooling over the goodies is as far as you get.
The rugged virility I am talking about in older men I know about first hand. Working in the shipping industry as long as I have, I know sailors. These are not Navy sailors, they are Merchant Mariners. They have spent a good part of their lives on commercial ships, sailing all over the world. Once they came ashore, they continued to work with ships in a variety of roles.
Because of the requirements of my job, I have to travel occasionally. I have been to Singapore, Tokyo, Copenhagen, Barcelona and Norway. In all of these places, I have met sailors. I’ve talked to them, drank with them and been accepted by them. They’ve told me stories that have made me laugh until the tears ran. In fact, I’m writing an anthology called Hello, Sailor which will be released sometime in 2008. It is a collection of three novellas based upon the stories I’ve been told by my sailor friends.
These men are career mariners. They are strong individuals, free wheeling, opinionated, wickedly funny, and sexy. Most of all – God bless them – they LOVE women! You might be surprised to hear that they not only love women, they respect women. Of course they tell dirty jokes! They’re sailors after all. But whenever I have socialized with them, individually or in a group, I am treated with such courtesy it borders on gallantry. Not even my husband (don’t tell him I said this!) is as courteous and mannerly as they are.
They aren’t pretty boys. Far from it. They carry themselves with an aura of masculinity that can only be achieved with years of self sufficiency. Being a sailor is not an easy life. Hard work and hard living show on their faces, rugged character etched in every line. Perhaps they wouldn’t be considered classically handsome. They are nonetheless attractive in their manliness, maturity and individuality.
Along with my sailor buddies, I have a few favorite older men that illustrate the kind of persona I’m talking about. How about the sex appeal of these guys?
Sean Patrick Liam Harrison Pierce
Connery Stewart Neeson Ford Brosnan
In our youth oriented culture, it is a refreshing reminder to know that sex appeal doesn’t diminish as the birthday candles increase. Both men and women remain sexual beings for as long as the fire burns inside. I have every intention of keeping my fire stoked for many more years. I think my sailor friends feel the same way.
Well, this is it. My week at Romantic Inks is finished. It has been a wonderful visit for me, and I hope you all enjoyed my blogs. I want to thank Haven again for arranging my visit and thank The Inclined for being so supportive. I appreciate your taking the time to read my blogs, and to comment on what I’ve written. You made me feel welcome and comfortable. I appreciate it.
As a final note, I would like to recap this response I made to an earlier comment. For anyone who missed it in the comments section, here it is again. It eloquently summarizes how I feel about my life, and my writing.
In 1981, Lena Horne did a one woman Broadway show called “Lena Horne – The Lady and her Music.” In the show, she referred to herself as a late bloomer. I find I am appreciating her comment more now than I ever have before.
Early in the show, she sang her signature song “Stormy Weather”, much like she sang it in the movie. Late in the show’s second half, she announced her next number by saying ‘’I had to grow into this song.’’
And then what does she do? She sings ‘’Stormy Weather’’ all over again. Only this time she sings it as if she had just grown into it, as if she had never sung it before. The words poured out of her, with a gospel fervor that covered her, and the audience, with sweat and tears.
I am growing into my song as Lena did hers, learning to sing it all over again, in a new way, with a new perspective. Who knew it could be this good!
My best to everyone and Happy St. Patrick’s Day !
PF
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Oh yes, Harrison Ford. *sigh* I mean, who wouldn’t love Han Solo or Indiana Jones? Love him! And Sean Connery with that voice…*sigh* Great eye candy, PF!
Thank you so much for blogging with us this week, PF. It has truly been enlightening and fascinating to get to know you. I’ll will surely be purchasing Sins and Secrets with my next book order and adding Take Me There to my TBB list.
Happy St. Patrick’s Day everybody!
Thank you Andrea. It’s been a pleasure to be here. You’ve all made me feel right at home. I’ve enjoyed blogging this week.
And yes, I thought those pictures were worth sharing. Every time I see those men, I get palpitations. Glad you enjoyed them, too.
Happy ST. Patrick’s Day!
And PF, I’m so drooling over Pierce! I’ve always found him really yummy. His movie, The Matador, had me really laughing when he walks through the lobby of a hotel in a speedo and boots, while drinking a beer. Too funny!
Sorry I wasn’t more active in commenting, but I read all your posts and you did a wonderful job! I have been super busy with my synopsis, trying to get it up to snuff. The deadline for the contest I plan on entering is April 2nd. So I’m realy putting the nose to the grindstone!
BTW, I’ll be drawing the winners of your contest Monday and posting them!
Hello PF,
Great topic. WoW! I am glad you here with us. This week you been bringing up some very wonderful topics. I am happy to be here blogging with you and the other’s as well. I love this blog
Now for older men I think Hugh Laurie is sexy
Hugssss
Linda.H.
That’s a great pic of Patrick Stewart! Thanks for coming, PF! It’s been grand. What different blogs! Different in a good way, not in a “special” way
Haven, Linda and Lacey:
They are good pictures, aren’t they? I thought each shot captured some intangible quality about the man, something that made me smack my lips and go Mmmmmmmmmm ! There is no question that these men have the machismo market cornered!
I’m glad you’ve all enjoyed my blogs. It’s been quite an experience being here. I’ve never talked publicly about myself like I have this week. In a lot of ways, you guys hauled by bum out of the closet. Thank you for that. As they say, timing is everything. The time for talking had arrived. You gave me the perfect forum for it. Thank you.
I have enjoyed you being here all week. As for older sexy men I;m right there with you on Pierce. One of my favorites is Mel Gibson!
Thank you for providing me with such great thought provoking and insightful commentary on this rainy Saturday! I’m only now catching up with all your posts and loving them.
I grew up watching old movies, so I’ve always had a love for older men like Cary Grant, Gary Cooper and Paul Newman, just to name a few. I can’t help but feel that that earlier love set a high standard for me. Young actors while pretty just don’t have the depth of soul that older actors have.
I’m reading your posts backwards, so I’m off to read the previous one.
Teresa and Sue:
Thanks for reading my posts. I’m glad you both enjoyed them.
Although I enjoy attractive younger men, I’m not inclined to boy toys. A more seasoned man truly rings my chimes.
Mel Gibson, Cary Grant, Gary Cooper and Paul Newman all have that distinctive virility that sets them apart. It’s wonderful that we have the opportunity to see them in movies, and have the chance to experience their unique masculinity!
You are very welcome PF. I am glad you talked with us and came out your shell LoL. It was great having you here I relally did enjoy blogging with you. And those are great picture’s. Mmm you mention Mel Gibson now he is sexy too
Hugssss
Linda.H.
Hi PF! Yummy pics! Harrison Ford is my favorite.
Thanks, Amy.
I think they’re yummy, too. That’s why I thought to share them.
I have always been enthralled with older men. More mature and grounded. Love the pic especially, my favorite is Patrick Stewart. He rules!
The photos are representative of the best of real men. The younger ones don’t have any appeal for me. When I was growing up I always enjoyed mature men in movie roles and still do. I loved Gary Cooper in his role depecting Lou Gehrig. No one can match his aura.
When I saw Liam Neeson in Schlinder’s List I was totally hooked. A man with principles and character as well as total masculinity. That did it for me.
I have been enjoying your blog this week. Your older men view is great and I am and have always been attraced to older, mature men whose strength and experience is important. Patrick Stewart is definitely the man I would choose. He is a great actor and has presence.
Alissa, Ellie, Pearl and Sharon:
Thanks for the comments. It’s nice to know other women share my view about sexy, mature men. I like my beefcake with a little more seasoning.
they are hot, so sexy over time
Hi PF!!!
I am with Haven on Peirce…and Sean K.. he gets my vote all of the other times as well!
Thank you so much for all of your fantastic blogs this week, I know you can tell how much I loved them. I can’t wait to read your books~!!!
Your choice of mature men is the ultimate. I am ga-ga for Patrick Stewart. His looks, voice and confidence beams down on me. He can project his charisma is waves.